Pursuing the Excellent Life

Episodes

Flourishing is a journey not a destination (Axioms for Flourishing #5)
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Dec. 30, 2025

Flourishing is a journey not a destination (Axioms for Flourishing #5)

Welcome to another episode of Live Well and Flourish. Today, Craig discusses Axiom for Flourishing #5: “Flourishing is a journey.” Drawing from his own experience of training for and running the Walt Disney World Marathon, Craig shares how achieving big goals can leave us feeling lost or empty if we focus solely on the destination. He explores ancient wisdom from philosophical traditions like Aristotle, the Stoics, Buddhism, and Taoism—all of which remind us that true flourishing is not an end s...
Purpose as Your North Star: Making Better Decisions (Axioms for Flourishing #4)
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Dec. 12, 2025

Purpose as Your North Star: Making Better Decisions (Axioms for Flourishing #4)

In this thought-provoking episode of Live Well and Flourish , Craig discusses the transformative power of purpose as a cornerstone of a flourishing life. Craig opens with the wisdom, "If you don't know where you're going, you'll never get there," illustrating how a clear sense of purpose serves as our guiding North Star—much like in the allegory of Alice and the Cheshire Cat. Drawing on insights from thought leaders, ancient philosophers, and psychology, Craig explores how purpose grounds our de...
Axiom for Flourishing 3: Virtue Lies in Balance
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Dec. 2, 2025

Axiom for Flourishing 3: Virtue Lies in Balance

Welcome to Live Well and Flourish with Craig Van Slyke In this insightful episode, Craig explores the third foundational axiom for living a flourishing life: “Virtue lies in balance.” Using both personal stories and timeless wisdom, Craig examines why finding the golden mean, or the middle ground, is essential for excellence and happiness. What’s Inside This Episode? The Importance of Balance: Craig begins by contrasting two weekend experiences—one lost to overworking, the other enriched by shar...
Axiom for Flourishing #2: Control what you can and let the rest go
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Sept. 9, 2025

Axiom for Flourishing #2: Control what you can and let the rest go

In this heartfelt and thoughtful episode, host Craig Van Slyke shares a transformative life philosophy rooted in his own challenging experience—learning to control what you can, and letting the rest go. Drawing from the painful journey of his first wife’s diagnosis and battle with late-stage cancer, Craig explores the deep wisdom in discerning what is within our power, exercising agency where possible, and practicing acceptance when faced with the uncontrollable. Key Takeaways: Discernment: Reco...
Axiom for Flourishing #1 - Agency defines character
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Sept. 2, 2025

Axiom for Flourishing #1 - Agency defines character

Live Well and Flourish – Episode 132: Agency Defines Character Host: Craig Van Slyke In this thought-provoking episode, Craig kicks off a new series presenting his personal collection of 35 axioms for living a flourishing life. Today’s focus: “Agency defines character.” What You’ll Learn: Craig shares a personal story about overcoming his habit of being an angry driver. When he noticed how his reactions affected his wife, he consciously chose to change, demonstrating how agency—our capacity for ...
The Flourishing Manifesto: Principles for Living an Excellent Life
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Aug. 25, 2025

The Flourishing Manifesto: Principles for Living an Excellent Life

Excellence isn't something you achieve—it's something you live. After 120 episodes exploring what it means to flourish, I've distilled the core insights into The Flourishing Manifesto, a philosophy of life built on agency, virtue, mindfulness, and purpose. This manifesto emerged while planning my upcoming book, Live Well and Flourish: Axioms for Living an Excellent Life . Though the words were crafted by ChatGPT from over 125,000 words of podcast transcripts, the thoughts are mine—years of conve...
Cultivating Patience in a Hyperconnected World (corrected)
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May 26, 2025

Cultivating Patience in a Hyperconnected World (corrected)

[Note: This is an updated version that corrects the audio file.] Patience serves as a formidable act of rebellion against the pervasive demands of our hyperconnected world, which incessantly encourages immediate gratification. In this discourse, we delve into the notion that cultivating patience is not merely beneficial for individual well-being, but a crucial strategy for resisting the algorithms that seek to dominate our attention and dictate our emotional responses. The incessant interruption...
The Wisdom of the Grateful Dead: Embracing Daily Challenges
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May 12, 2025

The Wisdom of the Grateful Dead: Embracing Daily Challenges

What if I told you that true resilience isn't about climbing mountains or weathering storms, but about handling the countless paper cuts that life deals us every day? In this episode, we're diving into an unexpected source of wisdom about resilience: the Grateful Dead's "Touch of Grey." Together, we'll explore why those daily annoyances—from traffic jams to critical colleagues to that scratch on your favorite watch—might actually be your best teachers in living well. Think about it: while we're ...
Elevating Existence: How Reason Shapes an Excellent Life
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May 5, 2025

Elevating Existence: How Reason Shapes an Excellent Life

At the heart of today's conversation is a simple but powerful idea: logic alone isn't enough to live a truly excellent life. The most important decisions we face require more than just logical thinking—they need to be guided by our virtues, our sense of purpose, and our connections with others. When we combine these elements, we make choices that align with what matters most to us, leading to a life of real meaning and fulfillment. Craig draws on Aristotle's wisdom here—he understood that living...
From Exhaustion to Flourishing: The Choices We Make
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April 28, 2025

From Exhaustion to Flourishing: The Choices We Make

The salient point of this discussion revolves around the assertion that the choices we make, both trivial and significant, fundamentally shape our existence and ultimately dictate our capacity to flourish. As I delve into the complexities of life’s overwhelming nature, I invite listeners to contemplate how their own decisions influence their well-being. Through a candid exploration of my personal experiences with exhaustion, I elucidate the importance of recognizing the agency we possess in scul...
Doom Scrolling: A Hidden Threat to Your Well-Being
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April 21, 2025

Doom Scrolling: A Hidden Threat to Your Well-Being

Doom scrolling represents a pervasive phenomenon that imperils our quest for flourishing and well-being. In this discourse, I elucidate the insidious nature of doom scrolling, detailing how it infiltrates our lives and undermines our mental health. I share personal experiences that illustrate the detrimental effects of mindlessly consuming negative content online. More critically, I propose actionable strategies designed to mitigate the adverse impacts of this modern affliction, emphasizing the ...
Hope Amidst the Struggle: Taking Control of Your Mental Well-Being
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April 15, 2025

Hope Amidst the Struggle: Taking Control of Your Mental Well-Being

The episode addresses the pressing issue of a mental health epidemic, a phenomenon that appears to be pervasive across various demographics within our society. Craig Van Slyke articulates the alarming statistics that indicate a significant rise in mental health challenges, with adult mental illness rates escalating from 19.1% in 2018 to 23.1% by 2022. Through a candid examination of daily conversations and observed trends, we delve into the underlying factors contributing to this crisis, includi...
Crafting Your Path to an Excellent Life: A Framework for Flourishing
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April 7, 2025

Crafting Your Path to an Excellent Life: A Framework for Flourishing

To live an excellent life, one must understand the foundational pillars that support true virtue, reason, purpose, and connection. In this discourse, we delve into these four fundamental elements that collectively foster a life of extraordinary significance. By exploring how these pillars interrelate, we illuminate the path toward not merely existing, but flourishing with intention and meaning. Our discussion aims to equip you with the necessary tools to embark on your personal journey toward ex...
The PITA Matrix: Your Guide to Reducing Work-Related Stress
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April 2, 2025

The PITA Matrix: Your Guide to Reducing Work-Related Stress

Feeling overwhelmed by your daily tasks? In this episode, Craig Van Slyke introduces the PITA Matrix, a practical tool designed to help you identify and manage stress-inducing activities. Many of us continue with tasks that drain our energy simply because we think they're essential. Learn how to use this simple but powerful method to understand your stress sources and develop effective strategies to manage them. If you're ready to reclaim your time and energy, this episode offers valuable insigh...
Is Your Pursuit of Success Hindering Your Flourishing?
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March 26, 2025

Is Your Pursuit of Success Hindering Your Flourishing?

What does it mean to live an excellent life? While many equate excellence with achievements and productivity, this episode challenges these conventional notions of success. Through personal reflection and insight, we explore a transformative perspective on excellence that goes beyond the superficial metrics celebrated in today's society. Many individuals, despite adhering to societal prescriptions for success, find themselves in a state of dissatisfaction, which prompts a critical examination of...
Reviving Excellence: The Return of Live Well and Flourish
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March 18, 2025

Reviving Excellence: The Return of Live Well and Flourish

The revival of *Live Well and Flourish* is predicated upon the profound realization that the pursuit of an excellent life is not merely a matter of planning, but rather an emergent process that unfolds organically. I have returned to this podcast after a hiatus, motivated by a rekindled desire to engage deeply with the concept of living a life imbued with meaning and purpose. This revival seeks not only to reflect on my own journey but also to assist listeners in navigating their paths toward fl...
All things must pass - the end of Live Well and Flourish?
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Sept. 30, 2024

All things must pass - the end of Live Well and Flourish?

After over three years and more than 100 episodes, I've decided it's time to step back from Live Well and Flourish. Producing this podcast has become more of a job than a passion, contributing to stress rather than alleviating it. Although new episodes will no longer be released regularly, past episodes will remain available at livewellandflourish.com for you to revisit whenever you wish. Plus, stay subscribed, as I may occasionally drop new episodes when inspiration strikes. For those intereste...
Stress Trifecta: Uncertainty, Isolation, and Overload (rewind)
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Aug. 26, 2024

Stress Trifecta: Uncertainty, Isolation, and Overload (rewind)

Stress can literally kill you ... if it's not managed well. In this episode of Live Well and Flourish, Craig shares his insights on the three main causes of stress: uncertainty, isolation, and overload. He discusses how each of these factors can bring about stress and offers suggestions on how to prepare for better managing your stress through reflection and performing an uncertainty inventory. Can a Hermit Flourish? https://www.livewellandflourish.com/can-a-hermit-flourish/ ------ Live Well and...
Managing Conflict (rewind)
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Aug. 19, 2024

Managing Conflict (rewind)

(This is a re-release of episode 43 of Live Well and Flourish.) Conflict is a part of human relationships, and relationships are critical to flourishing. So, knowing how to effectively manage these inevitable conflicts is an important aspect of living a good life. In this episode, Craig discusses four important conflict management approaches based on the importance you place on relationships and task outcomes. He also gives some general tips for managing conflict well. --- Emotional contagion: h...
Controlling Your Emotions Through Emotional Regulation (rewind)
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Aug. 12, 2024

Controlling Your Emotions Through Emotional Regulation (rewind)

(This is a re-release of episode 31 of Live Well and Flourish.) Being able to control your emotions to minimize unnecessary suffering, and to maximize positive feelings is important to your flourishing. In this episode, Craig discusses emotional regulation and provides some strategies for taking control of your emotions and emotional responses. There's also a goat story! Notes Five Families of Emotional Regulation Strategies S trategy family Example strategies Situation selection ...
Grief and Gratitude (rewind)
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Aug. 5, 2024

Grief and Gratitude (rewind)

(This episode originally aired before our name change from Rational Ignorance to Live Well and Flourish.) Grief comes from loss. But gratitude should accompany grief. Listen as Craig reflects on the puzzling relationship between grief and gratitude, and how a deeper understanding of how they interact can help you deal with grief, and prepare for future grief. ------ Live Well and Flourish website: https://www.livewellandflourish.com/ The theme music for Live Well and Flourish was written by Haze...
Living Well Through Reflection (rewind)
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July 29, 2024

Living Well Through Reflection (rewind)

Reflection is a learning, growth, and flourishing superpower. The world is often a chaotic, puzzling place. Reflection is how we can make sense of the world and our place in it. As the Jesuits at Boston College put it, “Reflection is the way we discover and compose the meaning of our experience.” In this episode, Craig discusses critical self-reflection and its many benefits. He also describes a systematic method for reflection and offers three things you can put into practice that will help you...
Living Well Through Mindfulness (rewind)
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July 22, 2024

Living Well Through Mindfulness (rewind)

Do you ever feel like you’re going through life on autopilot? Most of us have, but life doesn’t have to be that way. Join Craig as he discusses mindfulness and its benefits. Mindfulness is an active, conscious process where you’re more open to the present as well as more attentive and aware of the moment. According to Dr. Ellen Langer there are three specific behaviors related to mindfulness: engagement, seeking novelty and producing novelty. Listen to the episode to learn what to do to practice...
Living a Life of Purpose (rewind)
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July 15, 2024

Living a Life of Purpose (rewind)

Do you have a purpose in life? And do you know the difference between purpose and goals? In this episode you’ll learn how purpose is an elemental foundation to guiding your life and flourishing, as well as a means for having more focus and resilience when faced with the challenges of life. It’s also important to understand that you already have purpose, it’s already in you, and it is not something that you can find, but rather discover. By following the steps covered in this episode, you’ll be a...